There are all sorts of models – mathematical models, engineering models, research models. We use models to explain, describe, and predict.
What about modeling for children – not related to fashion, but to life and faith?
Randomized techniques and unpredictable guidelines are not proven strategies for intentionally parenting toward a positive outcome.
There is so much to consider in helping a child grow into an adult! Children have to be taught most everything. They must learn how to handle emotions, take care of personal needs, interact with others, and apply learned information. As Christian parents, we also want to teach our children who God is, that they need Jesus, and that living to glorify God in relationship with him is foundational.
Jesus is our model, and we are to be the model for our children. Our families are to be set apart for the Lord (Deuteronomy 6:6-7), which means going against the cultural norms for childhood. Babies are not just cute bundles to dress for show. Toddlers are not just silly actors to excuse in misbehavior. Youth are not just naïve minds to fill with whims and trends. Teens are not just near-adults to allow grown-up experiences without consequences.
Have you thought about the trajectory you hope for your child? If so, are you modeling that path for your child to follow? For example:
If you want your child to become a responsible adult, is he watching you be responsible with your time, resources, and obligations? Are you also giving him personal responsibilities to develop successes?
If you want your child to become a kind, controlled adult, is he hearing you speak kindly with patience and a loving tone? Are you also gently correcting his outbursts and lack of self-control?
If you want your child to become a healthy adult, is he seeing you choose healthy foods, exercise, and go outdoors? Are you also providing him with nutritious food and time to play outside?
If you want your child to become a faith-filled adult, is he noticing you exercise your faith in your personal time and with other believers? Are you also teaching him God’s ways and how to follow Jesus?
It is a lot to consider and it provides opportunities for us to grow. Even in the Lord’s strength we all will parent imperfectly. But by God’s grace we can model hope, love, compassion, and forgiveness.
When we choose to set our hearts on Christ and we pray for wisdom, we allow the Holy Spirit to work in us and through us to train up our children in the way they should go (Proverbs 22:6).
When we do, we will be giving our children a model of how to depend on the Lord and live for him.
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